Who is popular today?

Asian American masculinity has been linked to the model minority myth and a hierarchy of racist stereotypes
For a while, though rarely now as I get older, white women used to tell me I was “good-looking for an Asian”. I used to believe it myself. Until I moved to Korea when I was 23, visiting for the first time since my adoption at age two, I dated only white women. As an adoptee with white parents, whiteness was the model of desire I knew. “For an Asian” seemed as desirable as I could get.
During my childhood, my parents insisted that we were the same as any other family – which, because they were white, I took as saying I must be as white as them to be their son. “If I were white, I would be accepted” became “because I must be accepted, I must be white”. Continue reading...