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Neither sounds like a long-term prospect so as long as you’re not making promises you can’t keep, why not enjoy them both for the time being, says Mariella Frostrup
The dilemma Having been single for some time, two men have recently come into my life. Personality-wise, one is everything I want – fun, silly and intellectual. We clicked from the start. However, the sex has been odd, stilted and a bit awkward. I am attracted to him, love kissing him, but the chemistry isn’t there. I am wondering if it’s nerves and might get better. He mentioned his ex didn’t have a high sex drive and they were in an almost sexless relationship, so he could be “out of practice”.
The other guy, who I’m seeing more on the side, is really good in bed. There’s an intense sexual chemistry between us, very primal and instinctive. It’s a strange dynamic, though, as we hardly speak. He comes round and we jump into bed. I don’t know him at all. Continue reading...